Get Off the Couch, and Be Happy

I’m not happy, Omozua.

It’s time for a loving push in the right direction. You’re not happy. You come home at the end of every day only to continue this routine that does nothing for you. Yes, everyone must eat and clean up and sort the laundry—there’s no escaping that. But, what about the rest of your day?

What are you doing?

Why do you continue to walk this path that leaves you unhappy at the end of the day? Those around you may not see that you’re unhappy (or maybe they do because you’ve told them), but I’m sure they feel it. We usually take our unhappiness out on those around us.

It’s time. Get off the couch and let’s get to work.

I don’t know what to do.

How can you get off the couch and do something if you don’t know what to do? Is that what you’re thinking?

“Action may not always bring happiness; but there is no happiness without action.”

Benjamin Disraeli said that. He was twice the prime minister for Britain. He helped Britain secure it’s empire status during his time in office. I’m sure he had many choices before him often that could leave many people frozen in fear of choosing the wrong path. But, he had to make a choice. Not choosing was not an option.

The same goes for you. Your life has reached boiling point: It’s time to add ingredients or take the pot off the burner. It’s time for a choice.

Are you going to choose to continue to exist just as you are, or are you going to choose to strive for something different, something better that may not bring you happiness always but will still bring happiness?

I don’t know what that looks like.

I get it. If you had all of the answers, you wouldn’t be reading this. Instead, you’d be living the life you want.

Did you know that our decisions are largely based on emotions, or gut feelings and intuition? Study after study has been completed that confirms just that. So, let’s complete a little exercise that will help you tune in to your intuition (because you already have answers, I promise—the hard part is accessing those answers).

As quickly as you can, answer each of the following questions. Do not stop to consider the answer. Answer the question as soon as you understand what’s being asked. Either write your answers down or say them out loud so you can see or hear for yourself what you’re gut feeling is about each.

1. I’m in the best possible place in my career. 
2. I enjoy what I do for a living.
3. I’m taking time for myself regularly.
4. I have no doubt I’m doing exactly what I should be doing with my life.
5. I have realistic expectations for myself.
6. I have realistic expectations for others.
7. My romantic life is exactly where I’d like it to be. 
8. I have a supportive partner, spouse, or significant other.
9. I feel connected to my loved ones.
10. I know that my personal identity has nothing to do with my job title, bank account, or marital status.
11. I’m very clear on my purpose.
12. I have a clear picture of the goals I plan to achieve.
13. I know my strengths and weaknesses.
14. I own my life and everything in it as a product of my choices and actions.

Evaluate your answers. Were there any surprises? Do you see a pattern? What do those answers tell you?

I see the problem, but how do I fix it?

That is the million dollar question, isn’t it? For any task that seems to be too much, too big, the best thing to do is to break it down into small steps with small goals. As we complete each goal, we’re one step closer to the prize at the end. So, what’s step #1 to fixing the problem?

Get off the couch.

It’s time to get to work and fight for the life you truly want to live. And this is the part you’re so good at, so don’t shy away. You’ve been a butt-kicking, high-achieving woman your entire life. You can do this, too.

The next step is getting clear on your motivation. What is your motivation? Well, you don’t want to be miserable any longer, true. But what is really motivating you to dig deep and make important change? I know what should be motivating you.

You must firmly know that you are worth so much more than this.

You deserve more than an unhappy life that you have chosen to “settle” for. You deserve more because you are worthy of happiness.

You are worthy.

The biggest thing holding woman back from going after what they truly want in life is the unworthy mindset. For me, this feeling of unworthiness is broadcast by my inner chihuahua who loves to yap and yap about my failures, my mistakes, my misdeeds, and my utterly lack of value.

Thankfully, I have learned how to put a muzzle on the yappy chihuahua so that I can continue to pursue what I want in life. I am able to reach for things that are bigger and more than I ever would have thought of trying for before.

It’s your turn.

It’s time for you to know that you are worthy of something more, of something better. Once you’ve firmly realized that you can’t live like this any longer, that you are worthy of something more, and that the only way anything will ever change is to get up off the couch (figuratively speaking) and do something about it, you’re ready for the next step.

Because you are the only one steering, you are the only one responsible for the place you are at in your life. Now, you are the only one who will be responsible for changing that direction.

Do something. Right now.

Please take advantage of my free Get Out of That Rut session, right now. Go here to sign up for a call. It will be the best thing you could do to kick your life into gear. Don’t wait.