5 Steps to Satisfaction: How to Soar
How do you soar? What does that even mean? What does satisfaction look like?
Strip away all the labels.
Imagine for a moment that you are no longer an employee. You are no longer a wife, a mother, a woman, a success, kind, assertive, thin, thick, tall, short, black, white, European, American. All of these titles have fallen away. You are only you, stripped of all labels.
The obligations, expectations, and even benefits of each of those labels no loner exist. You do still have a job, a spouse, a child, a gender, an identity. But your identity is not about anything other than what you are on the inside.
You are weightless. Nothing is holding you down. You could float away.
What do you see about yourself once you’ve stripped all the labels away? Why is this something you should do?
Taking a step back from all of life’s labels and the work that comes with them means gaining clarity on who you are. Knowing who you are—knowing what you want—is the first step to understanding what it is that drives you.
If you don’t know what you want in life, you’ll never know what you need to be satisfied.
Gaining clarity is absolutely the first step.
Work Toward a Purpose.
Did you figure out what you want out of life? That’s the foundation for every step hereafter. If you haven’t been able to uncover what it is you want, yet, then pause. Stop here for now and work on it. If you find yourself getting frustrated, then go sign up for my Free Discovery Session. I can help you identify what’s holding you back so you can move forward.
I can only do that if you’re ready to dig deep and work hard on your own, though.
Once you’ve figured out what it is you want out of life, the next step is to figure out how to reach for that. What do you need to do to reach for what you want?
Do you need to set better boundaries with friends and family? Do you need to make an action plan? Whatever it is just remember this: You didn’t end up where you are in one day, and you won’t pull yourself out of it in one day, either.
Roll Up Your Sleeves.
The work is going to be harder than anything you’ve ever done. Why? Because you’re going to be fighting yourself with every step. You’ll be so tempted to slip back into old patterns, and there will be times that you doubt and question every thing you’re doing.
Fight it. Resist. Keep going.
Don’t stop just to try to return to the way things were. You’ll find going backward even less satisfying than it was before.
Be Ready to Take a Leap.
Imagine that what lies behind you is a rickety, old rope bridge. And in front of you is a cliff. There is a soft, grassy patch of ground beyond the chasm, but you’d have to make a jump you’ve never even attempted before in your life.
You can’t possibly go back across that rope bridge, but the way forward seems so risky. To say where you are on the ledge means being stuck indefinitely. You’ll never gain any ground, but you’ll never lose any either.
Is the risk of leaping worth reaching the other side? Maybe you don’t land on your feet. Maybe you stumble and scrape your knees, twist an ankle. But, being able to move forward to make your own path, it’s worth it. Right?
Staying exactly as you are right now isn’t working for you, otherwise you wouldn’t be reading this. You would be satisfied and content with exactly where you are.
Own Your Worth.
Do you know the two biggest reasons most won’t take the very first step?
Fear and unworthiness.
It’s terrifying, this journey to find clarity and then pursue what it is we truly want in life. It can mean going so far outside of comfort zones, that the thought is enough to make you curl back up on the couch. But don’t give it to fear. Changing something enough that you feel slightly uncomfortable is a good place to start. Eventually, you’ll feel comfortable there and be ready to move a little further forward. You just have to take that first step, though.
As for unworthiness, well …
You are worthy of happiness.
Did you hear me? You are worthy of being content, satisfied, fulfilled. You are worthy. Own it. Take it and put your worth on as you would your necklace, your earrings, your favorite shirt. Step into your worth. It’s time.
Omozua Isiramen has been a hairstylist, a chef, a trainer, and a teacher. She achieved much but still found herself feeling stuck, not able to move forward or go back. Happiness seemed like something that only other people were able to find. She has been where you are and she is ready and waiting to help you out of that rut. Learn more about Omozua.