Success from the Outside
While you have made all the “right” moves and choices in life, you’re not experiencing all the happiness you thought would come along with your success. Instead, you’re feeling adrift. The end of your day leaves you dreading the next day. You’re not happy, and you’re not sure what to do about it.
You’re not alone, and there are answers. Let’s cover 7 mindsets you can implement into your life starting right now that will change your life.
1. Focus on abundance.
Have you heard of the scarcity mindset? While there is article after article explaining how the scarcity mindset is holding you back from your true earning potential, a scarcity mindset influences much more than your bank account balance.
A scarcity mindset means that you believe there will always be a shortage. You’ll never have enough money, time, achievements, material possessions, and so on. This mindset will eat you alive because you’ll never be content, you’ll never truly celebrate your wins, and you’ll always be worried about attaining more.
I’m challenging you to focus on the abundance in your life instead of the scarcity. Focus on what you have. Understand that your physical possessions do not reflect your value as a person. The number of degrees you have on your resume do not dictate your worth.
Every time something or someone makes you smile, pause and reflect on that. Take note of it. Realize that there is so much more in your life than you’re allowing yourself to recognize.
2. Become a chronic rejoicer.
Have you ever dealt with a chronic complainer? If so, then you will undoubtedly understand that a chronic rejoice is the antithesis of a chronic complainer.
There will always be something in your life that isn’t perfect. You will have many bad hair days. You will have many days where it feels as if everything that could go wrong is going wrong. You’ll meet sadness and sorrow.
You’ll also have many more days where it feels as if nothing is happening. There will be days you feel apathetic and indifferent. The world is neither black nor white, happy nor sad. It just is.
Through all of this, find the small things to rejoice over. It could be something as simple as sunshine, or as big as meeting a goal or going a day without letting your inner dialogue turn negative. Look through all the negative and neutral and appreciate the good and the great things.
3. Become a medium.
No, I don’t mean the kind of medium that channels spirits.
Learn to reign in your tendency toward all-or-nothing. Often, those who become fed up and burnt out at work are the all-or-nothing crowd. You go above and beyond until you’re not receiving any reward for your efforts. Or worse, you’re only receiving criticism.
Then, as if your efforts can be turned on and off like a light switch, you flip all of your efforts to doing nothing. You’re no longer going above and beyond; as a matter of fact, you’ve quit altogether.
Learn to balance your efforts. Find that happy medium place where you’re still accomplishing what you should be accomplishing, but you’re not burning yourself out with the great-efforts-with-little-reward approach. This means not walking away entirely, but stepping back a touch. This brings us to our next point…
4. Create balance.
Figure out what’s important to you. Do you enjoy traveling? Do you feel energized by spending time with your family? Are you waiting to do something in your life that you’ve always wanted to do?
Stop waiting. Start doing. Take the time off to travel. Start that project you’ve been thinking about. Write that book that’s been on your mind for years. Do it. Take action.
But, don’t become lost in it all. Create balance. You’ll discover that you can produce more quality work, spend better quality time with family, write a better book, and more if you create a balance in your life. Balance allows us the time and space to recharge.
5. Establish boundaries.
Balance isn’t possible without boundaries. And performing your best in both your personal and professional life isn’t possible unless you’re using your strengths.
Setting boundaries means recognizing your strengths and weaknesses and then operating within those parameters. Establishing boundaries with those we care about the most is the toughest. But, it’s necessary to set boundaries and then stick with them. No one else will stick with our boundaries if we aren’t also respecting the line drawn in the sand.
6. Be fluid.
This may sound as if I’m contradicting everything I just said about boundaries, but there is a difference between enforcing boundaries and being flexible.
Life and the circumstances in which we live, work, and social are ever-changing. Seasons change, and we should be able to change and adapt as needed. Being inflexible or rigid in our interactions, approaches, mindsets, and daily living will only cause us stress.
Being inflexible in an ever-changing world is like trying to beat back the tide with a broom—it’s wholly ineffective and exhausting.
Learn to recognize the situations in which you are balking at change simply because you’d prefer not to face change or adapt. Change for the sake of change isn’t ideal in many situations, but resisting change for the sake of resisting change is just as impractical.
7. Separate fact from opinion.
Just because someone believes something to be true doesn’t mean it is. The same goes for your beliefs: Simply believing that something is real or true will not make it so, no matter how much you’d like it to be.
Opinion: My hair looks better curly.
Fact: My hair is naturally curly.
Opinion: She’s a toxic person because of the way she treated me.
Fact: My feelings are hurt because of the way she spoke to me.
Know the difference between fact and opinion, especially before making decisions. Separate your opinion from fact and look at the situation carefully. Act based on facts. It will simplify your life significantly.
Encourage others to do the same.
Remember—sometimes the hardest part of reaching your goal is gaining that initial momentum. Let me help you build your momentum. Start with a Discovery Session.